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What is Jealousy Caused By?

Updated: Jan 11

what is jealousy caused by

Define Jealousy

It often arises in relationships or situations where a person perceives a threat to their sense of security or valued possession.

Jealousy is typically caused by a perceived threat to one's sense of security or valued relationship. It often arises when a person feels that someone or something they cherish (such as a romantic partner, friend, possession, or achievement) is being threatened or taken away from them by another person. 


Jealousy can also stem from feelings of inadequacy or low self-esteem, as a person may fear that they are not good enough to keep what they value or they may feel unworthy of love, respect, or attention from others. 

If someone has experienced betrayal, rejection, or loss in a past relationship, this can also increase the likelihood of feelings of jealousy in a relationship.


How to deal with jealousy

It's important to say that jealousy is a natural human feeling and that jealousy is more an umbrella term for a range of emotions that hang under this umbrella. but it can become problematic and unhealthy if it leads to controlling or abusive behaviors. 

  1. Acknowledge your jealousy: The first step in dealing with jealousy is to acknowledge that you are experiencing it. Recognize that jealousy is a normal human emotion, and it's okay to feel this way sometimes.

  2. Identify the source of your jealousy: Take some time to reflect on the different energies under the umbrella. What is the source of your jealousy. Are you feeling threatened by someone else's attention or affection? Are you worried that you're not good enough to keep someone's love or friendship? By identifying the root cause, you can begin to address it more effectively.

  3. Communicate openly and honestly: If your jealousy is related to a specific relationship, it's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner or friend. Share your feelings in a non-accusatory way, and try to understand their perspective as well. This can help build trust and strengthen your relationship.

  4. Work on building self-confidence: If your jealousy stems from feelings of inadequacy or low self-esteem, it's important to work on building your self-confidence. Focus on your strengths and accomplishments, and take care of your physical and emotional well-being. 

  5. Avoid comparing yourself to others: Comparing yourself to others only leads to envy. Remember that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and focus on your own unique qualities and on your projects and dreams, instead of comparing yourself to others.

  6. Seek support: If your jealousy is causing significant distress or is impacting your relationships, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor. They can provide you with strategies to manage your feelings and work through any underlying issues that may be contributing to your jealousy.


At the core, jealousy is born of poor self-concepts, meaning the view I have of myself, or low self-worth. To combat our own enemy of jealousy, we need to acknowledge it, talk about it and bring the focus back to what I am doing; to what my dreaming is. I put energy into my own projects and Dream and this reduces the hold of jealousy.  

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