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Jealousy: Will it Bring Your Ex Back?

When a relationship ends, it can be difficult to come to terms with the loss of what was once a significant part of your life. You may find yourself constantly thinking about your previous partner, and wondering if there's anything you can do to win them back. One feeling that often surfaces during this time is jealousy. But, will jealousy bring them back?

Jealousy can be a powerful emotion, and it can be tempting to use it as a tool to try and win back someone’s attention. 

Will jealousy bring her back?

It is important to understand that jealousy is not a healthy or effective means of getting someone back in your life. 

In fact, it could actually push your ex further away, making them see your behavior as immature or desperate and likely damage any chance of reconciliation. 

Why, you may ask? 

When you're trying to make your previous partner jealous, you're not being authentic or true to yourself. Your actions may not reflect your true feelings, and this lack of authenticity can erode trust in the relationship.

Whilst jealousy could win back your ex it would usually be because they are feeling insecure and threatened and they are seeking to gain back control in their lives. This is not a genuine reason to restore a relationship.

Jealousy can often come across as manipulative and dishonest and can be damaging, leading to a relationship that is unhealthy and unsustainable.

If your relationship ended, it's likely that there are deeper issues that need to be addressed. Using jealousy to try and win your ex back doesn't address these underlying problems and may even make them worse.

So, what should you do instead of using jealousy to try and win back your ex? 

There are other things that can naturally draw them back to you. These will make them see your worth without having to play games.

  1. Focus on yourself: Take some time to reflect on what went wrong in the relationship, can it be fixed and what you can do to improve yourself. Focus on your personal growth, whether it be through therapy, nature connection, or self-care. When you are feeling happy and confident, your previous partner is more likely to be drawn to you.

  1. Maintain positive relationships: Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who lift you up and make you feel good about yourself. By maintaining positive relationships, you will demonstrate that you are loved and valued by others.

  1. Give them space to miss you: After a breakup, it's important to give people space to process what has happened. Don't try to force them back into a relationship with you, as this can come across as desperado. Instead, give them the time they need to miss you and to reflect on their feelings.

  1. Focus on building a positive relationship: If you do have contact with them, make sure it's positive and respectful. Focus on building a friendly, supportive relationship that is based on mutual respect and trust. This will lay the foundation for a possible future relationship.

  1. Show genuine interest in their life: When you do have contact, ask them about their life and listen to what they have to say. Show genuine interest in their experiences and feelings, and avoid bringing up old issues or conflicts.

  1. Avoid playing games or trying to make them jealous: These tactics often backfire and can damage any chance of reconciliation. Instead, be honest and open about your fears, feelings and intentions.

  1. Don't settle for less than you deserve: Make sure that you are setting boundaries and not settling for less than you deserve in your relationships. Show your ex that you have self-worth and value yourself and won't tolerate mistreatment or abuse. 

  1. Be patient: Winning someone back takes time and patience. Don't try to rush the process or force a relationship. Let things develop naturally, and be realistic and aware of the possibility that the relationship may not work out in the end.

What can it mean if an ex comes back?

There can be many reasons why your previous partner comes back, some of these can include:

  1. They still have feelings for you: If they come back, it could be a sign that they still have feelings for you and are interested in rekindling the relationship. They may miss you, regret the breakup, or simply realize that they still have feelings for you.

  1. They're feeling lonely or unfulfilled: Sometimes people come back to a previous partner when they're feeling lonely or unfulfilled in their current life situation. They may be seeking comfort, familiarity, or a sense of security.

  1. They want to try again: If your ex comes back, they may be interested in giving the relationship another chance. They may have realized that they made a mistake in breaking up with you, or they may believe that things can be different this time around.

  1. They want to make amends: If there was a particular issue that led to the breakup, they may come back to make amends and work through the issue. They may be seeking healing and closure or a chance to start fresh.

  1. They are feeling jealous and threatened by your new found confidence, happiness and success. If this is the case, they are not coming back out of love but rather out of a desire to prove something to themselves or to you. If your previous partner is coming back out of jealousy, it may be best to have a conversation with them to understand their motivations and determine if a reconciliation is truly in both of your best interests.

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